Cancer: The word no one wants to talk about


My fiancé was diagnosed with cancer about four months ago. He went in for a procedure that should have been routine and then I got the call. My husband has suffered from Crohn’s disease for about 13 years now. It was time to get him some relief. We had scheduled a surgery to take out his colon. He went in for the surgery and the doctors had opened him up and found what no one wants. Cancerous tumors were sitting in my husband’s appendix, colon and abdomen. I had to wait a couple of hours before I could go into see him, but when I did we cried as the doctors told him his situation. My husband had cancer.
We spent three nights in the hospital not knowing much and planning on how to move forward. I have student loans and was working a job that was barely paying for my expenses. My fiance had a full-time, big boy job at least. But with the new medical expenses that would be coming up, we were unsure of how we would make it through. Thankfully his sister asked to set us up a fundraiser that which would end up providing us most of what we need. The community surrounded us was incredible! They came alongside us with donations, meals and emotional support!

Living Through Cancer

Through all this we still had to plan a wedding. We had picked a date for May of 2018 which gave us 9 months to plan. Unfortunately, not being married was going to make the road ahead very difficult. So we had to make a choice…
…and 9 days later we were married! With the help of our family and our pastor we planned an intimate, beautiful wedding! November 10th, 2017 was one of the best days of my life! The wedding happened in a familiar church we had been attending. Present were our close families and couple close friends. It was the type of wedding I didn’t know I needed. We are still going through with the “wedding” in May, but it’ll be more like a party with family and friends. In other words, a lot of the pressures of planning are no more! Yes, they still have to get done, but so what if something goes wrong. We are already married and have been going through the ups and downs of life for six months by that point.
So at the age of 23 I am happily married to the man of my dreams with just a slight little hiccup…he has cancer. Cancer has brought many sorrows, but in an indirect way it also brought great joy! My husband and I made the decision that cancer is not going to slow us down! We fight everyday side by side. He is the love of my life and I’m so very thankful that he is mine!
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